Every single day I fight the anger.
Over and over people tell me how strong I am. The only way I feel strong is that I don't let the anger win. But it is there...I can't get rid of it, but I try not to let it win.
People tell me it is okay to feel angry...that I should feel angry...that given what I am going through I am "allowed" to feel angry.
The thing is, I don't want to be angry. It isn't me. I am not an angry person by nature. But now it just simmers up. A therapist I know told a story of a woman who dealt with her anger by going to garage sales and buying dishes. She then stacked them in her garage and when she was angry, smashed them. I love this idea. But then I think about the clean up and the potential for missing small shards and the small, frequently barefoot children, and cringe at the idea. But I need to find something like this...quick and effective, but that does not involve shrapnel.
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Anger is def understandable... at this point how could it not be? It has to rear up every once in a while. And although you hear it all the time... YOU are incredibly strong, but that doesn't mean that it's not ok to be weak, and sad, and happy, and confused, and grateful, and frustrated, and conflicted, and angry all in the same day. If not in the same moments of your day. I think release is a great part of a "life's journey". Breaking stuff, sounds perfect, if not a little fun, but you are so responsible. I understand about the little feet (as you battle bee stings tonight)So... here's the thing... I know a guy ;)... he may be able to build a box to smash stuff in, heck he could probably build one to stand and scream in if you would like. You let me know he may owe me a favor or two... I mean I did bring his two children into this world ;)
Buy some skanky pillowcases and put the dishes inside! You could also go to the end of your street and punch the lady who smokes at the school bus stop.
Try the driving range, or batting cage, running, yoga...i have found some release doing these activities...hope they can benefit you also!
Punching bag. Or dishes in someone else's garage. Or I'm sure we could round up some unsavory characters and you can just punch them. I'll hold your drink.
You don't want to be angry. You also don't want cancer. This is a case when you can't have what you want. I don't want you to be angry or to have cancer either.
You might be beyond where breaking stuff would help. When the dust settles, nothing you really want will be fixed. Damn.
Maybe, and I don't know, but maybe it would be good to think of some more of the things you can impact in a constructive way. In times of great sorrow it has helped me to write a post card (just a few words) to someone I have forgotten about for too long.
Baseball bat against a tree (the tree can take it), block of wood and a hammer, one of those clown punching bags from when you were a kid, a teddy bear held by the legs and slammed against a wall... oh, wait, or are these the things I've thought of when I get frustrated and angry over much less important things during the course of my day?
You're human my friend... Of course you're pissed.
I have a kick boxing bag in the baesement complete with boxing gloves...used to take classes with toby gifford when i was in top shape...mmm....anyway...collecting dust now so would that help your anger. ?You can punch away....and get a workout at the same time....has to make you feel better!
I was always too physically weak to actually break much of anything so I'd play some game online where you get to smash stuff. (something like this http://www.kongregate.com/games/BGamesSite/insectonator?tab=achievements)I find anger is inevitable so find some way to release it that works for you. That way you can get rid of it faster and enjoy more happy moments.
Wack-a-mole. Bonus is the kids will love watching you take it all out on theses moles who probably eat some of your flower beds anyway....DOUBLE BONUS!
Take up archery ! Pop some bubble wrap with your fist! Run! far! With really loud Music on and swear your head off!
Scream really loudly!
And breathe...keep breathing! DEEPLY!
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